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Father, my heart is fragile and delicate and easily broken. I have tried to find the one who will cherish me, whithout Your view. My heart has been broken and my emotions bruised. I ask You to take and guard my heart. I will choose not to entertain thoughts and emotions of love which cause me to give my heart away too readily. I will come quickly to You when I start feeling like I am in love. Please hold the key to my heart and emotions until a day I can give it to the man You have prepared for me.”

This prayer comes from a woman whose story is in the book “Lady in Waiting.” I share this with you today because I think this woman has the right view on dating. She has recognized that her heart is weak and fragile.  

We too should know this- look at how quickly we attach ourselves to guys, how many texts from a guy does it take to make your heart beat fast when you receive one? How often do you catch yourself daydreaming about a guy? And on the other side, how bad does it hurt when you get rejected, how often do guys break your heart? 

The answer to these questions will quickly show you how fragile your heart is. Dating is a game of giving pieces of your heart away and never getting them back. The more you date and become attached to people, the more of your heart you give away.

That is why this woman, and many others (including myself) have figured out the best way to save your whole heart for the man of your dreams is to wait

How do you wait? You give your whole entire heart to God and everything that goes with it. Tell God he can have it completely. He is the only one who really knows who your husband will ultimately be anyways, so why not wait for his discrection to give your heart out?

Giving God control of your heart is not easy though, it requires much trust, patience, and discipline. Notice in the prayer she said she would quickly come to God whenever she felt feelings for a guy. She says this because she knows the heart is easily mislead (Proverbs 16:2) By constantly checking emotions and feelings with God’s will she is keeping God in control and allowing him to protect her heart.

Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things. For you died, and your life is now hidden with Christ in God.” Collossians 3:1-3 

What does this look like in real life? Well, first you need to have a long talk with God, sharing with Him this commitment and allowing Him to fully take over your heart.

Then, the next time you start to get feelings for a guy, before you can entertain the thought or text your best friend, you immediately go to God and ask him if this is someone he wants you to be with. 

Check your list of standards, does this guy seem like he might even come close? (The excuse: “I don’t know him yet” does not count here. If you noticed who the guy was you have obviously noticed some of his behavior or speech. It is not hard to tell right off the bat what a person’s heart is. 

If you have a close relationship with God you can easily distinguish if someone is living with God as the center of their life or not.

Next, pray that God’s will would be done and not yours, and mean it! Allow God to be in control of the situation—don’t Facebook stalk the guy, don’t “accidently” get his number from a friend—just stop. Relax, wait. Let God handle what you have already asked him to handle.

After you have brought everything under God’s control, then you have to focus your thoughts on God or else we all know they will be focused on this guy. So pick a verse to memorize or a prayer to pray, anything that can remind you to bounce your thoughts upward. I know all these steps may seem hard and overwhelming, but God has a special person designed for each and every one of you and He doesn’t want you to give your heart away until He shows you the perfect guy He has for you in His perfect time.

So give your heart to God first, and trust Him to give it away to your husband in His time. Try it and see what happens. 

Above ALL else guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.” Proverbs 4:23

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TO THE MAN WHO OWNS MY HEART ❤️

  To the man who owns my heart, I thought of you again last night before drifting off to sleep. I don’t know why no matter what I do, I can’t stop thinking about you. I remember the first day we met, I fell in love with you because I saw something in you that I cannot see with someone.. or something else. You are patient, kind, slow to anger, generous and something that struck me.. you never keep record of my wrongs. I can never out-give you. Everything that I do is nothing compared to what you’ve done. A lot of times I ask, “Who am I that you are mindful of?” “What can I do to give back all the undeserved love?” But I always get the same reply, ”I loved you first. To let me in your heart is more than enough.“ The years with you are the best years of my life. You don’t know how healthier my heart gets every time I pour out all my thoughts on you. Unlike other friends of mine, you listen without judgement. And you know how sneaky you are? You let me decide on my own yet you would do things to protect me from any harm that my decisions would lead me to! That annoyed me at first but I learned to appreciate it as our relationship gets deeper. A lot of times we argue over things and stuff. I want to go left, you are always right. I want to do this and that, but you would disapprove. Our fights are always short though because usually I would end up heartbroken whenever I follow what I want. Thing is, you never fail to catch me every time I fall. I always end up thanking you for interceding. I remember when you first called me “my beloved” after my first heartbreak.. I felt so loved. I was shattered having been betrayed but your words assure me that you are with me. You will never leave me nor forsake me no matter how worse things get. Above all, you will love me no matter how worse I become. Your unconditional love melts my heart in awe. You even said, “I will make you my bride forever.” Your love perseveres. You were faithful, though I am not. You didn’t let me go even if a lot of times I pushed you away. You’re not like the rest who would step out of my life and wait for me to reach out. You are always the one who would do the first move, though I know you were hurt for my mistakes.  Now I know that one day, I will get married and will have kids. I want my husband-to-be to know you too. Not just know you, but have the same relationship that I have with you. To recognize that you are the center of it all and our lives are meaningless without you. I want a worshiping family. Someday we will see each other face to face and you will ask me, “What did you do with the life I gave you?”. God, you own my heart, my life.. I want to be able to answer You that day…I want my list to be long enough! I want You to be proud of me and tell me, “Well done!”  And I guess no matter how far I run away, I will end up with You..because my soul was made to yearn..for You! I love You so much.. so much that I will obey. Bride-ly yours,  Charmie P. ❤️