Paano dumiskarte ang kristiyanong lalake? 🕵


Minsan maihahalintulad mo siya sa larong chess. 🕴🕴🕴 Oo, sa chess nga. 

Ang kagandahan kasi sa larong chess puwede siya sa beginner (NOVICE) at siyempre sa mga pro (CHESS MASTER). 

Ngayon, naranasan mo na bang matalo sa larong chess??? Kasi, WRONG MOVE ka?? 

Napapansin ko lang sa mga chess master, bawat move nila pinag iisipan at pinag aaralan nila. They do not usually move lang ng move, bara lang ng bara, tira lang ng tira…but for the novice, halla! Sige, move lang ng move. Maenjoy lang ang laro. Win or lose. No big deal!!

Para sa NOVICE

Kapag dumiskarte ng babae parang machinegun….baril lang ng baril, kung ilan ang matamaan, sayo na!! 

Kung sa chess, ikaw yung madalas macheckmate. Kasi hindi mo pinag iisipan at pinagplaplanuhan yung bawat move mo. Madalas ka ma-wrong move! 🙊 Kaya ang ending mo, madalas kang nasasaktan. Madalas ka natturn down. Madalas kang nahohopia. Madalas, PLAY AGAIN!! 

Para sa CHESS MASTER

Kung pumili ka para kang sniper! Matindi ka e! Kasi kung mamili ka, ang target mo ISA LANG!! 

Tapos talaga namang you really invest your time and effort into it, kasi gusto mo bullseye e. Planado ka! Plantsado ka! Pinag isipan mo! Pinagplanuhan mo! Matindi ka dumiskarte! Sa kagaya mo, isang game lang sapat na…kasi siguradong panalo ka. Ikaw yung slowly but surely. Di ka naiinip sa tagal ng laro kasi alam mo sa huli, it’s worth it!! 

Ang chessmaster (tunay na lalake) slowly but surely! Isang game lang sapat na, kasi pinag aralan mo, pinagplanuhan mo, alam mo ang ending nun, PANALO KA!!

Sa henerasyon kasi natin ngayon parang ang batayan ng pagiging tunay na lalake ay kung nakailang girlfriends ka na, kung ilang babae na ang napaiyak mo, ang napaasa mo, ang naghahabol sayo, ang nagkakagusto sayo o di naman kaya kung ilang likes meron ka sa fb, kung ilan ang followers mo…kaya pati mga lalake ngayon adik sa selfie, gusto maging famous, gusto makilala, gusto maging sikat kasi pakiramdam nila dun nila mararanasan ang fulfillment ng buhay.

Everyone who drinks of this water will be thirsty again…. John 4:13


Sa totoo lang ang fulfillment ng buhay wala naman sa tao, sa position, sa power, sa lovelife, sa kung ano man ang meron ka. 

Ang totoong fulfillment ng buhay matatagpuan lang yan kay Lord. 

….but whoever drinks of the water that I will give him will never be thirsty again. The water that I will give him will become in him a spring of water welling up to eternal life. John 4:14

Yung love na hindi mo maikukupara sa kahit na anong love na naranasan mo sa mga naging gfs mo, kafling mo, kaibigan mo o sa pamilya mo kasi yung love ng Lord nakakapagbago ng buhay, ng pananaw, nakakapagbigay ng bagong simula.  Yung saya na ni minsan hindi mo pa naranasan sa buhay mo. Yung contentment na akala mo hindi magiging posibleng mangyari sa buhay mo.

Ang tunay na lalake si Lord ang one great love. 

Kay Lord tumatakbo kapag may temptation, kay Lord nagsseek ng advice, kay Lord humihingi ng final decision, kay Lord lumalapit sa tuwing nadadapa, kay Lord nagpapaayos, kay Lord nagpapakilatis ng babaeng gugustuhin niya, kay Lord nagsasabi ng problema.

Ang tunay na lalake marunong manalangin, marunong magbasa ng bible, marunong magpakumbaba, marunong humingi ng tawad, marunong rumespeto, marunong magpahalaga ng mga bagay na meron siya.

It’s never too late to start again. Nadapa ka man o nafeel mo man na madami ka ng oras na nasayang sa paglalaro sa buhay, may pagkakataon ka pa namang magbago. God is a God of many chances. Ang kilala kong tunay na lalake marunong mag repent at handang magpaayos sa Lord. 😊☺️

And the Lord will guide you continually and satisfy your desire in scorched places and make your bones strong; and you shall be like a watered garden, like a spring of water, whose waters do not fail. Isaiah 58:11

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Paano mag-antay ang Kristiyanong Babae?

  
Sa totoo lang isa sa pinakamahirap gawin ng isang tao ay ang MAGHINTAY!!! Kahit anong klaseng pag aantay pa yan, pare-pareho lang ng pakiramdam…NAKAKAINIP, NAKAKABAGOT, NAKAKAPAGOD, NAKAKALUNGKOT, NAKAKADISAPPOINT, lahat ng NAKAKA na mahuhugot mo ngayon sa kaibuturan ng puso mo, yon na yon!! HAHAHA.

Pero….PAANO NGA BA MAG-ANTAY ANG KRISTIYANONG BABAE? 🙆💆💇

Sila yung mahilig mag FRIENDZONE!!!!! 

What??? Why??? How???

1. FRIENDZONE yourSELF

For no one has ever hated his own body, but he nourishes and tenderly cares for it, as the Messiah does the church. Ephesians 5:29

Meaning, mahalin mo muna ang sarili mo, you have to be happy with your own company first. You have to respect yourself first, YOU HAVE TO MATURE FIRST!! 

You cannot give what you do not have.

Kailangan BUO KA! Mahalaga din na dapat alam mo ang WORTH at ang VALUE mo ng sa ganon alam mong alagaan at respetuhin ang sarili mo. 

2. FRIENDZONE your FAMILY

Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your God is giving you. Exodus 20:12

Be friend with your mom and dad and your siblings. Date them. Spend quality time with them. Sila naman muna. 

Bago ka makipag date sa crush mo, idate mo muna mga magulang mo.

Training begins at home!

3. FRIENDZONE your FRIENDS

Get a life!! Enjoy your life!! While you are still young, single and free, go out with your friends. BUT, please choose your friends.

Do not be deceived: bad company ruins good morals. 1 Corinthians 15:33

I don’t mean to say na layuan mo ang BI friends mo, I guess kailangan ka nila, make a difference to them. Sila ang mahawa mo, hindi ikaw ang mahawa sknla. Don’t pressure them to change, hayaan mo na ang pagbabago makita sayo. 

4. FRIENDZONE GOD

Ito pinakamahalaga sa lahat. Ang kaibiganin mo si Lord. Yung kaibigan na hindi lang basta kaibigan kundi iBESTFRIEND ZONE mo. 😊 Unahin mo si Lord sa lahat ng bagay. 

Seek first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness, and ALL THESE THINGS WILL BE ADDED UNTO YOU. Matthew 6:33

Iba kapag same kayo ng heartbeat ng Lord. Alam mong secured ka, secured ang future mo. 

He promised us the BEST FUTURE: best job, best boyfriend, BEST FUTURE!!!

Kaya naman wag kang magmadali, MAG-ANTAY KA! ☺️ May nag aantay na the best para sayo. Focus ka muna sa Lord. Maximize your singleness to know God and serve God! 

5. FRIENDZONE your PARTNER

Take it slow. Kapag may napupusuan ka na wag ka naman agad agad magpapakita ng motibo. Mahalaga ding kilalanin mo muna. Mas okay yung friendship na pure ang intention. Iba pa din ang relationship na nagsimula sa friendship. 

Kung may nagugustuhan ka na kagaya ng lagi kong sinasabi, TAKBO KA SA LORD. ☺️ Pray! Pray! Pray! 

Two are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10

Respect eachother, pray for eachother, build up one another, support one another. 

The Lord is good to those who wait for him, to the soul who seeks him. Lamentations 3:25


PS

I’d love to hear from you lalo na po sa mga gentlemen na nakakabasa nito. I’m planning to write again kung paano naman manligaw ang kristiyanong lalake. So guys, I’d love to hear a word from you. Please feel free to message me! God bless! 

sa tamang panahon

  

Father, my heart is fragile and delicate and easily broken. I have tried to find the one who will cherish me, whithout Your view. My heart has been broken and my emotions bruised. I ask You to take and guard my heart. I will choose not to entertain thoughts and emotions of love which cause me to give my heart away too readily. I will come quickly to You when I start feeling like I am in love. Please hold the key to my heart and emotions until a day I can give it to the man You have prepared for me.”

This prayer comes from a woman whose story is in the book “Lady in Waiting.” I share this with you today because I think this woman has the right view on dating. She has recognized that her heart is weak and fragile.  

We too should know this- look at how quickly we attach ourselves to guys, how many texts from a guy does it take to make your heart beat fast when you receive one? How often do you catch yourself daydreaming about a guy? And on the other side, how bad does it hurt when you get rejected, how often do guys break your heart? 

The answer to these questions will quickly show you how fragile your heart is. Dating is a game of giving pieces of your heart away and never getting them back. The more you date and become attached to people, the more of your heart you give away.

That is why this woman, and many others (including myself) have figured out the best way to save your whole heart for the man of your dreams is to wait

How do you wait? You give your whole entire heart to God and everything that goes with it. Tell God he can have it completely. He is the only one who really knows who your husband will ultimately be anyways, so why not wait for his discrection to give your heart out?

Giving God control of your heart is not easy though, it requires much trust, patience, and discipline. Notice in the prayer she said she would quickly come to God whenever she felt feelings for a guy. She says this because she knows the heart is easily mislead (Proverbs 16:2) By constantly checking emotions and feelings with God’s will she is keeping God in control and allowing him to protect her heart.

Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things. For you died, and your life is now hidden with Christ in God.” Collossians 3:1-3 

What does this look like in real life? Well, first you need to have a long talk with God, sharing with Him this commitment and allowing Him to fully take over your heart.

Then, the next time you start to get feelings for a guy, before you can entertain the thought or text your best friend, you immediately go to God and ask him if this is someone he wants you to be with. 

Check your list of standards, does this guy seem like he might even come close? (The excuse: “I don’t know him yet” does not count here. If you noticed who the guy was you have obviously noticed some of his behavior or speech. It is not hard to tell right off the bat what a person’s heart is. 

If you have a close relationship with God you can easily distinguish if someone is living with God as the center of their life or not.

Next, pray that God’s will would be done and not yours, and mean it! Allow God to be in control of the situation—don’t Facebook stalk the guy, don’t “accidently” get his number from a friend—just stop. Relax, wait. Let God handle what you have already asked him to handle.

After you have brought everything under God’s control, then you have to focus your thoughts on God or else we all know they will be focused on this guy. So pick a verse to memorize or a prayer to pray, anything that can remind you to bounce your thoughts upward. I know all these steps may seem hard and overwhelming, but God has a special person designed for each and every one of you and He doesn’t want you to give your heart away until He shows you the perfect guy He has for you in His perfect time.

So give your heart to God first, and trust Him to give it away to your husband in His time. Try it and see what happens. 

Above ALL else guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.” Proverbs 4:23

Anong hanap mo te?! (CHECK THE CHECKLIST!)

 In my 23 years of existence, well turning 24 on …… 😊 I actually went into relationships but then the pattern goes the same: I FAILED! I kept on coming back thinking I could be better next time but I also keep on failing. These failed maybe because I wasn’t ready. It wasn’t the right time or it was not with the right guy. 

I remember the Lord telling me “NO!”, “Enough!”, “Stop!” many times to my previous relationships, needless to say I didn’t listen. I learned from my disobedience, I was carried away by my own desire sa inaakala kong pang habang buhay na kakiligan, kaligayahan, at feeling cloud 9 kapag kasama siya. Akala ko sa tao ko matatagpuan ang tunay na pagmamahal, tunay na ligaya, tunay na karamay, pero HINDI PALA!! It is from my own desires that hurt me. Then I begun asking myself why am I always hurt? Why do I always allow it? Why does it end up a disaster? How long this pain will lasts? Will I ever love again? I went through heartaches at hindi lang basta heartaches, nag iwan ng malalim na sugat at matinding marka ng sakit. Simple lang naman ang gusto ko, I wanted to be loved! 

After a long time of searching, being careless and being disobedient, God revealed to me something, “what’s in your treasure chest, my child?”, “what are the things that you worry about?” During my teenage years and up to now, finding and having a special someone (a boyfriend in particular) is what consumes my mind. And I considered it as an IDOLATRY. Gaya nga ng lyrics sa Clear the stage by Jimmy Needham

Anything I put before my God is an idol. Anything I want with all my heart is an idol. Anything I can’t stop thinking of is an idol. Anything that I give all my love is an idol.

We all know that our God is a jealous God as stated in the book of Exodus 20:5. I was so preoccupied about love. I didn’t allow God to take over everything or lead the relationship. Many times he told me to surrender my treasure chest but I didn’t do it, well, partially maybe, but not all. 

Because of heartaches and being mislead by my emotions, I started listing my CHECKLIST!!! 😊 At itinaas ko ito sa Lord. Actually, I believe He is the One who put all these qualities in my heart. So, standard namin ito ng Lord. 😉

Ano nga ba ang hanap ko te? 💭📝💭📝

✔️ Man of VISION

“Women, do not ever marry a man without vision. The worst disaster of your life is living a life without vision! Without vision men perish dragging their wives along.” Proverbs 29:18

He must have DREAMS, DIRECTION, PURPOSE and MISSION. To be honest, ako yung taong ayaw sa plano at relasyon na SUNTOK SA BUWAN!! He should know where he is going and he pursue that direction. And his vision is not his own but the vision of God. He hit God’s vision right at the very center! 

✔️ Man of FAITH

“And whitout faith it is impossible to please God.” Hebrews 11:6

He must have a BIG FAITH not big muscles! 😊😉✌️ His asset is not his face but his faith. He loves risking it with God by believing every word and every promise even when it seems impossible! He move mountains, soar high, do impossible things, accomplish great things and witness miracles all because of his faith in God. 

✔️ Man of OBEDIENCE

“Some time later God tested Abraham. He said to Him, “Abraham!”, “Here I am!” He replied. Then God said, “Take your son your only sob, whom you love-Isaac and go to the region of Moriah. Sacrifice him there as a burnt offering on a mountain I will show you. Early the next day (morning) Abraham got up and loaded his donkey. He took with him twi of his servants and his sob Isaac. When he had enough wood for the burnt offering, he aet out for the place of God had told him.” Genesis 22:1-3

He is a man of no Ifs, no buts, no questions asked, just obey and know when to surrender.

✔️ Man of INTEGRITY

“The righteous who walks in his integrity— blessed are his children after him!” Proverbs 20:7

Yung lalaking may isang salita. When he says “yes” then yes, and when he says “no” then no. Yung lalaking marunong tumupad ng pangako. Yung lalaking hindi paasa at pafall. ☺️😉 Yung lalaking may paninindigan. 

✔️ Man after God’s own heart

“Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your spul and with all your mind.” Matthew 22:37

He is secured in God’s love and needs nothing but Him. Go crazy inlove for Jesus, blazing His passion for Him and extreme to obey His commands. 

Ayan. Is it too good to be true? Nah. I don’t see it like that. And wait, there’s more! 😉 Habang lumilipas ang panahon mas nakikita ko yung mga bagay na mahahalaga, kaya naman may mga idinagdag pa ako sa checklist ko. Here: 

✔️FAMILY-ORIENTED man

“….but as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.” Joshua 24:15

Yung lalaking may pagpapahalaga sa kanyang pamilya. Yung lalaking may respeto at marunong sumunod sa kanyang mga magulang. Yung lalaking pinapahalagahan ang opinion at approval ng kanyang pamilya. At eto sabi nga sa showtime ang TUNAY NA LALAKI ay MAMA’s BOY!!!! Di ko alam pero attracted din talaga ako sa lalaking malambing sa kanyang pamilya. 💕

✔️ Man of RESPONSIBLITY 

And when I say responsibility, a man’s divine role is to be a provider for his family. So I guess you know what I mean. A man who knows to save and manage his resources and finances with wisdom and balance. 
So that’s it. 😊 Gusto ko lang klaruhin at ulitin,

ang pag-ibig, hindi yan hinahanap (lalo na kapag babae ka), kusa yang dumarating. At sa pag-aantay mo, ayusin mo din ang sarili mo. Kung gusto mo ng quality na partner, kailangan sikapin mo ding maging better person ka para sknya. 

Kung gusto mo ding magkaroon ng CHECKLIST, then seek God. He is the perfect matchmaker. 😊 Alam niya yung standards na akma para sayo. Sa pag-aantay mo ng forever mo, maximize your singleness to God. Kasi when you have God in your in life, you have everything. 

Kung sa tingin mo kulang pa yung relationship mo kay God sana mainspire kita to get deeper. I pray na maexperience mo din yung satisfaction, yung abounding love at grace ni Lord. 

Bago ang kung ano pa mang relationship yang gusto mo, o kung sino man yang taong ninanais mo, si Lord muna. Ahm, palakas ka kay Lord. Hehehe. 😉 At ang mahalaga sa lahat, magpaayos at magpasakop kay Lord. 🙏

You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. Jeremiah 29:13

Salamat sa pagbisita ng blog ko! 😊 Sana nainspire kita. Sana nablessed ka. 😊 God bless you! 💕